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2022 Resolutions: The Factor that Works AGAINST Change

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It’s the new year and that time of assessment and opportunity. Chances are you are setting intentions for one or more changes in your life. Upgrades such as feeling better or more confident in your body, losing weight, improved fitness, greater prosperity, happiness, feeling more connected, fulfilling relationships, and finding the love of your life whatever you seek, there’s one powerful thing working against you.

Habitual behavior

It’s easy to create short-term changes: the 3-day diet, five days of meditation, the 2-week fitness plan, etc. Then life happens and knocks you off course. Short-term change is doable.

And yet, permanent change seems to be a toughie (based on personal experience and hundreds who find me each year seeking guidance).

The Goal: LASTING, LONG-TERM, SUSTAINABLE UPGRADES to your health, your body, your relationships, and your experience of life.

The psychology of permanent change is one of my passions (this will likely be the subject of my TED talk): studying it, testing it, analyzing what works and what doesn’t when it comes to change, and explicitly manifesting it so that change can happen with ease and flow, rather than strain, tension, and force.

The force of habit is just as powerful as the zest with which we approach goals. Over time, habits usually prove more potent than willpower, which means that we are destined to fail without putting into place factors that counter this momentum. And failure leads to — or re-enforces beliefs about oneself such as “I can’t change,” “I’m not good enough,” or “I can’t have what I want.” 

What are the factors that counterbalance ingrained habitual behavior?

1) Knowledge – start with the brain

2) Mindset – how you approach change and your big reason for making the change;

3) Support – doing it alone differs from having support, encouragement, accountability, and a proven strategy that leads to long-term, sustainable beingness (vs. short-term/temporary change).

  • An outside source can easily see the blind spots or blocks you cannot see (or even realize are there).
  • Resistance is a HUGE internal factor that sabotages change – having support to understand this dynamic (and move past it) is key.
  • Introducing changes in a manner and frequency that is right for you – some people do well with massive, immediate changes, while others do best with slow integration.
  • They are sticking with changes long enough that they become new habits.
  • Staying aligned with the way you move into change for empowerment.
  • Stepping into an upgraded life with EASE, grace, and flow!

Factor 1: Knowledge is crucial for our logical minds to understand WHY change is so significant and to strategize HOW to change — this is where info like hormonal regulation, blood sugar balancing, and nutrition strategies come into play for weight loss or business courses can help in wealth-building, for instance. As they say, knowledge is power – BUT it’s only the first step!

Factors 2 and 3: Mindset and Support determine if you stumble and fall OR if you keep going, even with the inevitable falls, getting up again time after time because of simultaneous internal motivation AND external support. 

So what’s your plan for making changes this year?

Today, I invite you to take the first step. Check-in with your inner wisdom and sit with what that is for you. What changes are most important to you, and how will you move forward (considering all three factors)?

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